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This blog is where I write about some of the Continuing Professional Development I undertake.  I hope you find it interesting, useful and informative.

By natahicks, Oct 18 2019 07:23PM

What do you know about emotional abuse in the form of enmeshment? Having an invasive parent and being a ‘chosen child’ are the hallmarks of a form of ‘emotional incest’. It’s similar to being the favourite but feeling guilty for it. It’s a type of ‘positive neglect’ whereby one’s own needs are never really understood or met. The psychological implications are anxiety and/or depression that impact upon personal relationships caused by not really knowing who we are or what or who works for us as we have been so used to being ‘rewarded’ for putting the needs of a parent before our own.

Contact me if this resonates with you and you would like to explore this concept in more depth, as a means to achieving positive change.

By natahicks, Jan 21 2018 10:43AM

Bessel Van der Kolk's amazing book, The Body Keeps the Score, highlights the myriad of ways the mind controls the body by forcing it to hold varous forms of trauma in our muscles, in our lungs and our gut, and via other body-brain connections such as headaches. Through the use of various approaches including drama therapy and physical movement, breathing and mindfulness, EMDR, neurofeedback and through talking therapies that lead to self-awareness we can achieve emotional regulation.

By natahicks, Nov 10 2017 06:04PM

I attended this one day workshop with Dr Richard Erskine on Monday 13th November in London and found it hugely informative in terms of discovering his latest thoughts on Attachment, in terms of there being an 'Isolated' relational pattern. This being people who have been 'over parented' and can be superficially social, but wll use emotional withdrawal to manage relationships. I can see the links to TA here, as it highlights the significance of having a controlling or critical parent who crucially would be misattuned to their child's sense of identity.

I also witnessed him undertake an intriguing live goldfish bowl therapy session too, with slightly weird undertones of the Carl Rogers and Gloria sessions!

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